That's been causing me pain for 30 years.
Very early into my vintage audio addiction, as I was leaving the house of a seasoned audiophile who was purging some of his vast collection (he had stuff piled up to his ceilings) with the 3 receivers, 2 tuners, 1 eq, and an amp comparator I had just purchased from him, I noticed his wife, who was in the room, seemed in very good cheer. I commented that there's going to be one happy wife and one not so happy wife that night referring to his and mine. He laughed and said "It's all about sharing the pain".
I guess that applies here too
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