I was able to get the remote control partially working by tweaking the slugs in the remote control. A recap of the receiver got all the functions working

I'm so glad the volume motor is still good!
One bad thing though is the latching power relay is flaky. I tried tweaking the contacts a little and made it even worse so now I'm looking for a replacement.
Unfortunately, it seems to be an oddball relay. They call it a latching relay with overload protection. More specifically, I think it's a ratchet or impulse relay. Each time the coil is pulsed, the relay toggles it's contacts and stays that way until another pulse is applied. The coil runs on 120 VAC.
I believe this Omron G4Q-212S AC100/(110) could work but it's a little pricey.
http://www.mouser.com/ds/2/307/g4q_ds_csm44-598708.pdf
$105 from Allied Electrons or about $75 on Amazon.
Any suggestions ?