I figured out the problem I think.
Ok, i got the syncs back where they are supposed to be. I built an LM386 amp, and tied it to the fork. now, the output is going into clipping, but no more speed off. now it stops as you stop the disk, and speeds up to near normal when you play this disk, itll try to lock, but it wont lock the phase. itll slow down, or speed up, but never maintain.
im assuming because its clipped now, and i have to amp up the reference sync pulse. I guess??